This
word isn’t as common in our society as in the Western world, but to the
extremely intellectual, well travelled and well read Africans, the word
Narcissist comes in handy either with a heart bang or a relief that the culprit
is out of their lives.
A
Narcissist is a man or woman with a personality disorder, which is a mental
illness. A narcissist is very selfish and self centered. It’s all about me, my
views, my opinions, how I feel and don’t give a damn what the other person in
their lives feels even if that person is dying inside emotionally. A narcissist
is detached and is more concerned about him or herself - it’s a very complex human
personality. A Narcissist can be fun charming either he or she make you feel
special at the onset of a relationship, and then in an instant, treat you like a
complete stranger he or she haven’t had intense communication with. Are you
presently in a relationship with a narcissist and you don’t even know that’s
who he or she is, and this gives you sleepless nights? Here are the signs to
know if you are dealing with one.
IT’S
ALL ABOUT ME
Sighs!
This personality types can make their partners emotionally depressed for no good
reason. It’s all about him or her, my car, my job, my sexual needs, my views
and opinion matters, and when their partner brings up a complaint, they disregard
it as if it’s not important. Tinuke was dating Tunde a Banker with a striving
new generation bank. He was good looking, they met at a party and we all knew
the result. Sparks flew in the air like they all say at the start of any
relationship. He made her feel cherished, called and invited her for weekends,
took her out for dinners in cosy restaurant on the Island, the lovemaking very
electrifying - took his time to explore her body to estacy and then all of a
sudden when he has given all the love and affection, he blanked, he just went
into passive aggression, the silent mode of a typical narcissists. Tinuke
became confused, she called Tunde; he seemed distant and was always using his
work in the bank as an excuse like: don’t you know I have got to work hard if
we want to get married and have a very comfortable life? Why are you been
selfish? Tinuke is confused and when it came to sex, he just went straight to
business like he's sleeping with a whore. Tinuke who used to be a very
confident Telecommunications Executive began to question herself. A narcissist
will make you feel that way that something is wrong with you and everything is great with
them.
THE
RULES DON’T APPLY TO HIM OR HER
Hmm!
A typical female and male narcissist feels they can actually cheat in a
relationship and still try to justify themselves. Like it’s not a big deal; they
are so high on themselves, they are like you should be happy you have me that
people are linning to date them. So what’s your problem? And they make their
partners very helpless and confused like 'I am doing you a favour.' A typical
narcissist who cheats on his or her taxes and ignore rules that get in the way
of their doing what they want.
In
a relationship with a narcissists you can suggest a getaway for a romantic
weekend, they will shockingly rubuke you for suggesting such when they are so
busy with files at work but if it’s going to benefit them and catches their
interest they don’t want to know if it’s convenient for their partners. Their
mental disorder is intense and most times they don’t even attribute their
character to narcissism.
YOU
ARE WRONG AND I AM VERY RIGHT…
A
typical male and female narcissist always laments that it’s the fault of their
partner that things are bad in their relationship and its very glaring for all
to see that they are the source of the problems themselves. They don’t apologize
when they make mistakes to their partners. Infact, they blame their partners for
the way their relationships are. Samuel Akinyeye lived in Spain, met Tomi who
lived in Lagos online, and they clicked. Being a typical narcissist - very
impressive at the beginning of the relationship, all was so romantic and nice.
He
then decided to introduce Tomi to his sister and her husband in Ikorodu, he
definitely wanted them to access a lady he himself haven’t met in the flesh,
what an irony? To cut the long story short, the sister; an obessed fat shapeless
woman married to a Pastor in a very local area in Ikorodu then went to badmouth
Tomi because she saw Tomi as a threat. Tomi; educated, beautiful, and
intelligent - if she eventually marries her brother, she wouldn’t have access
to her brother anymore like she used to. Samuel decided to show his real
narcissist self, he started to downgrade Tomi telling her he heard she talked
like a parrot and that it was old pictures she used to deceive him online. Tomi was in great
shock and was emotionally traumatized by the sudden change in Samuel. Tomi wasn’t
dumb, she decided to give Samuel a doze of his own medicine. Tomi called him
short and shapeless man and that he should stop sending pictures of his ugly dick
to responsible ladies on the internet. He didn’t expect it, so his image was
damaged, he blanked, never called back. He came to Nigeria on June that year
like he promised, but never came to see Tomi. Tomi was depressed for a month - that
was her 1st encounter with a Nigerian male narcissist.
THEY
CAN BE VERY QUICK TO ANGER
Yeah!
In relationships, they get worked up easily when provoked and most times they
are the ones who even provoked their partners and blame their partners for no
good reason. They hate being criticized when they are wrong and blame it all on
their partners. Imagine a narcissist female blaming her man for not being able to truly enjoy sex, whereas
she was raped by an uncle as a tennager and never truly healed - that’s a
typical female narcissist - admitting they have a problem is a big issue.
THEY
ARE SO HIGH ON PERFORMANCE AND APPROVAL OF PEOPLE
These relationship manipulators want to be the very best in their careers and their
partners praising them all the time gives them the kicks. They wanted to be the
one standing out in the crowd. They like the world to applaud them and say
great things about their job, careers, their wrist watch, dress code, but with
their real partners they show their dark side of extreme passive aggression, blame
game, silent treatment, they make life unbearable for their partners but once
they step out with that very partner, they put up a front to the world - really
toxic!
THEY
CONSTANTLY PUT THEIR PARTNERS DOWN IN PRIVATE AND ONLY THEIR NEEDS EXIST TO BE
MET
The
typical narcissist partner whom at the initial stage of the relationship seeks
to please you will now want you to serve them, and worship the ground they walk on.
The sad part is they make you fall madly in love with them and then start dealing with your mind. To sex is their needs - they want dogy style. I want
you to give me “a head go down on me”, they just want to feel superior, they
hide under their insecurities with their criticism, silent treatment, tantrums,
ridicule, judgment, and they are destructive. If they don’t work on this mental
disorder they can destroy their partners emotionally and mentally.
Being
in a relationship with a narcissist at the initial stage seem like heaven on
earth, but when they get you to fall in love with then, then be ready for a
deep pain that you might never fully recover from, if you don’t find God and
have a personal relationship with Him.
You might have been dating a Narcissist, and you didn’t just know he or she was one...These are sure signs to know. So, you can
make a decision if you want to continue with them or advise them to get help, because
this mental disorder can destroy, tear self esteem and self worth as a human
being, and really learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all!
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